I am for the sanctity of marriage and seeing families intact and happy. And I believe that no person in his right mind would wish his marriage be broken and his family be divided. Everyone started with really good intentions and dreams. Otherwise, why marry?
But the reality speaks far from these ideals. People make mistakes everyday, and that includes marrying the person you thought was the best.
The annulment in the Philippines is an almost useless tool in settling marital disputes. Simply because of the price tag and selectivity it carries. Only people who could afford it gets the annulment, making it a privilege of the upper class. But what about those majority who couldn’t afford it? While it serves the purpose of discouraging marital break-ups, people who are at the bottom of the social strata remain helpless in their situations until death do them part.
That kind of suffering is not called a virtue, but stupidity. Women and children are given a first taste of hell by living with someone who subject them to unimaginable forms of abuse. Our records reek with stories of philandering spouses, battered wives and abandoned children.
So leave that holier-than-thou attitude to the church altars and wholesale life insurance salesman, and realize these things:
- That families have already been BREAKING UP for the longest time. We’re too afraid to admit to society that certain unions are failures.
- Children are SENSITIVE. They can feel if something is not right between mom and dad. If you think that you can shield your children from your marital problems by pretending that everything’s ok, you are deceiving yourselves. THEY KNOW.
- Not all children who grew up in broken homes end up to be losers. In fact, there are far too many who became successful because they understood what it was like to live with almost nothing.
- A STRONG-WILLED single parent can raise kids ALONE and make them better individuals later on
- Most abandoned families suffer in poverty .
